Siblings Talk About Each Other, Part 2

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Here is our final toast to the talk of siblings, as they answer the same questions asked of each other. We start with an identical twin pairing entering their fifth decade of life and end with a little pair in their first decade of life.  Our twins are Sharon Chandran (right) and Darlene French (left). Sharon is my sister-in-law – isn’t she pretty? And since Darlene is more or less her mirror image, aren’t they both?  Listen in on what they have to say about each other, and then maybe, if you find your mind wandering to your own brothers and sisters, give them a call. That would truly be a fabulous way to end our month devoted to siblings.

Sharon Chandran:

1. What do you love most about your sibling?

Darlene and I are identical twins so the most frequently asked question we get is, “Do you feel the same thing at the same time?”  No, we don’t, but we know each other well enough to know how we would react in a particular situation. Which is what I love most about her since she is my “go-to” person when I need advice on how to deal with a problem or just want to have her as a sounding board. She listens without judgment and provides advice that I can rely on. And she calls me when she needs me which makes me feel privileged to be an important part of her life. We don’t call each other every day or see each other that often (our lives have their own level of chaos in them), but I know that if I need her or she needs me, we will be there.

I also love the fact that we are the same size and can share each other’s clothes. It’s like having a second wardrobe!

2. What irritates you most about your sibling?

Although we are identical twins, she is a half-marathon runner while I dislike running. It is really hard to keep up with her level of energy!  I admire her for her dedication to this sport, but it bothers me that I can’t keep up!

3. No holds barred: What is the one thing that you wish you could do together?

I wish we could go on vacation together, just the two of us. We talk about it but due to the family commitments we both have, it has been always our greatest challenge. We are trying to organize something for this coming Christmas with both families, which would be the second-best thing. Aside from vacation, it would be nice if we had more time to meet for coffee, have dinner, or just go for a walk together. Maybe one day as we grow old together …

Oh yeah… and get matching tattoos!

Darlene French:

1. What do you love most about your sibling?

When my kids were little, Sharon was always there to help me with parenting issues, what to feed them, activities to do with them, etc. She was so helpful because she had been through it and it wasn’t like she was saying, “You should do this because I did”, it was a genuine offer to help me do the best I could with them. I loved that – I was so lost at the beginning with my first and she was super helpful.

2. What irritates you most about your sibling?

She works way too hard and doesn’t leave much time for herself.  And she sweats the small stuff – she gets very annoyed at relatively small issues – in the grand scheme of things, they don’t really matter. I worry that this behaviour affects her health – less mental distress and less work would be good. Her work sometimes takes precedence over other things and I’m concerned her distraction due to work could impact her safety and health.

3. No holds barred: What is the one thing that you wish you could do together?

Get tattoos – we always said we were going to do it, but we never did. We had even come up with an idea – each of us would have half a flower, maybe on our ankle. I think the flower was called the twinflower (it actually exists – the proper name is Linnaea borealis).

Darlene and Sharon Babies

(No one could Sharon and Darlene apart back then. Their mother distinguished them by painting a toe nail on one baby.)

And to end our month about siblings, we introduce Allegra Ricci (7) and Domenic (9) Ricci. May we channel their youth and vitality into our own farther-along lives.

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Allegra:

1.     What do you love most about your sibling?

I love that he really loves me.

2.     What irritates you most about your sibling?

When he says “whatever” to me.

3.     No holds barred: What is the one thing that you wish you could do together?

Oh, I wish we could do a dance together, on a stage, and be partners. That would be geriffic [Allegra’s made up word for “great” and “terrific”].

Domenic:

1.     What do you love most about your sibling?

I love that she plays video games with me and even watches me when she doesn’t feel like playing.

2.     What irritates you most about your sibling?

When she has fits.

3.     No holds barred: What is the one thing that you wish you could do together?

I wish we could go on walks just me and her, without any grownups. We’d have so much fun.

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