Choosing a Lube by The Nookie’s Veronica Kazoleas


Lube’s been a preferred method of increasing sexual pleasure since the Ancient Greeks starting using olive oil to lube up in 350 B.C. Whether you’re performing solo, experimenting with anal, or pleasuring your partner orally, there’s a lube for that.

You Can Use Lube To

Increase penis sensation while using condoms by adding a drop of lubricant to the inside of a condom before placing it on a penis. It’ll up the sensitivity the user experiences.

Be more orgasmic because wetter is better. Women who use lubricant report being more easily orgasmic, having higher levels of sexual satisfaction and pleasure, and experiencing less pain during intercourse than those who don’t.

Prevent chafing while engaging in athletic activities like long distance running by applying silicone-based lubricants to chafe-prone body parts.

Accommodate natural (common, nothing to be embarrassed about or apologise for) changes in vaginal self-lubrication. It’s a common belief that a woman’s wetness depends on her level of arousal. The fact is that changes in hormone levels, pregnancy, and menopause often affect wetness, regardless of how turned on someone is. Medications like antihistamines and antidepressants can impact self-lubrication as well.

Prevent tearing during anal sex. The tissues of the rectum are surprisingly fragile. Always use lube for anal sex.

Add new (and improved) sensations to foreplay by using lube while giving a hand job or stimulating a clit. It’ll reduce friction and make it easier to maintain a constant rhythm. Using an edible lube is also a good way of keeping blowjobs nice and wet.

Reduce the risk of condom failure by reducing friction and preventing condom tears.

Things to Consider When Choosing a Lube

Stain Potential

Some formulations will stain fabrics.

We try to note in the product description whether a product is likely to stain. Unfortunately these are just guidelines, and we can’t guarantee a product won’t interact negatively with the materials of your bedding and/or clothing. You may want to lay a towel down or test the product on an inconspicuous area first if you’re worried.

The Impact of Body Chemistry

While we happily give recommendations on what lubes work best for what activities, we can’t definitively say what the best lube for you will be.

Much like shampoos and skin lotions, some formulations just work better with your unique body chemistry than others. And just like regular care products can lose their effectiveness over time, you may also need to change your brand of lubricant periodically. We offer many of our lubes in small sizes so you can test compatibility before committing to a whole bottle.

Whether you’re Using it Primarily for Vaginal or Anal Sex

Many people prefer thinner lubricants for vaginal sex because it reduces friction without eliminating the sensation of skin to skin contact.

For anal sex, thicker products often provide better cushioning and enhanced comfort. Some manufacturers even make anal specific lubes that use plant extracts to create a more gel like consistency.

If you’re Trying to Get Pregnant

There is some research showing that certain lubricants impede sperm motility, amongst other factors important to conception. Unfortunately none of the products at The Nookie have been tested specifically for their effect on sperm. If you have reservations, it’s always a good idea to consult your doctor. You can also try using Pre-Seed, the only lubricant specifically manufactured for couples trying to conceive.

Types of Lubricants

At The Nookie, we only sell silicone or water-based lubricants. Both are body safe and effective with all types of condoms, but only water based is compatible with silicone sex toys (we address lube compatibility under the product features for each of our toys).


Silicone-based lubricants are incredibly slick, don’t dry out or get sticky, have no scent or flavour, and are waterproof. Silicone is our recommended lube for anal sex and is safe for use with all types of condoms.

Two important considerations with silicone are that 1) it can be harder to clean up than water based lubricants and 2) it should not be used with silicone toys because it can cause them to melt.

Water Based

Water-based lubricants come in a wide variety of formulations. Regardless of their particular composition, all of them lose slipperiness and require reapplication with prolonged activity (most regain their slipperiness if you add water or saliva to the area). Water-based lube is safe for use with all types of condoms.

Water-based lubricants are not waterproof. If you want a waterproof lube for sex play in the shower, bath, pool, etc., you may want to consider silicone based products.

Flavoured water-based lubes are a great way to make oral sex more fun.

Warming water-based lubes can boost arousal by increasing blood flow to the clitoris. (The products themselves don’t heat up in temperature, they just provide the sensation of warming using additives like menthol.) Warming lubes can also add a level of novelty to your sex routine. Pro-tip: try rubbing warming lube on your nipples. A word of caution, however. If you’re experiencing any vaginal irritation, a warming lubricant can make it feel like your genitals are on fire.

Veronica’s Recommendations


Uberlube is a silicone-based lube.  Available online from The Nookie, $34 for 100 mL or $24 for 50 mL.


A basic, water-based lube that’s vegan friendly and paraben and glycerin free is Sliquid H20. Available online from The Nookie, price ranges from $12-$24 depending on bottle size.

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Sliquid also make a silicone/water-based blend that adds longer life to the lube without being harmful to silicone sex toys.  Available online from The Nookie, $30 for 8.5 oz.

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Although I recommend silicone for anal sex, those who prefer water-based products can benefit from the extra thickness of Sliquid Sassy.  Available online from The Nookie, price ranges from $12-$24 depending on bottle size.


A dedicated advocate for a change in dialogue around female sexuality, Veronica Kazoleas, an award-winning social psychologist and former healthcare executive founded The Nookie in 2016.  The Nookie is not your typical sex shop.  With an emphasis on human connection, the highly trained and educated staff are committed to empowering individuals to connect with what brings them intimate pleasure. Visit the The Nookie online or at 827 College Street, Toronto, Ontario.  Private appointments available.

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